Growing Old[er] Together Is Hard To Do // 8 Year Anniversary

They say that it takes seven years for all the cells in your body to replace themselves. On average, people who grow old together spend anywhere from 40 to 50 years together. That’s seven to eight new people in one relationship. Today marks eight years that my boyfriend Chad and I have been together. So it’s pretty much like I’m dating a whole new person.

When I met Chad, he didn’t like mushrooms, told me he was allergic to lettuce [because he didn’t like it], and had never read a book. We were both 17 years old, clueless, and had no idea what we were getting into. Since then, we’ve been through pretty much everything a person can be. Oh, and I’ve gotten him hooked on new foods, lettuce doesn’t scare him, and he’s officially read one and a half books.

I am, essentially, dating a completely new man, and he is dating a new me.

Growing old together is a great concept. I don’t want to act like I know it all after only eight years, but I will admit that growing old together is hard. We bloom where we are planted and at our own speed, but it takes watering to get us there. That’s what Chad is for me.

He’s seen me through all my ugly haircuts, terrible makeup phases, and every bad outfit. [Seriously though, major kudos for him for sticking with me even when I decided not to wear makeup at our junior prom.] But, more importantly, he’s stood by me through every hard decision and tough time.

When we first started dating, our biggest concern was what color scheme to wear to the prom. Now, we’re focussed on starting a life together. That, my friends, is the start of growing old together. It’s scary and wonderful and makes me want to smile and cry all at the same time.

I wouldn’t be the person that I am today without Chad. The lessons he’s taught me about everything from working out to stepping out of my comfort zone are irreplaceable. It’s been a wild ride and I wouldn’t want to go through it with anyone else.

It’s hard to wrap up eight years in a blog post, but I tried my best. There are glamorous sides to being in a long-term relationship, but it’s the hard work that deserves to be spotlighted the most. Here’s to who we are, who we will be, and who we’ve been.

xx.

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84 Comments

  1. Lise

    Happy anniversary! You’re a lucky couple to have grown closer instead of apart like so many do during their late teens. Wish you best of luck in the future too x

  2. Victoria

    I love this. Congratulations on being together for 8 long years! That’s hard, even for already-married couples so kudos to you guys! Cheers to more years together and good luck to more growing old as an individual and as a couple ❤

  3. caitpb

    Congratulations! You two are so cute! And 8 years is super awesome 🙂 Here’s a question: what is the book that he read? 😀

  4. Melissa Gibbs

    It’s my five year anniversary today with my boyfriend and this post made me all teary! You summarized perfectly what it’s like to grow up with another post and the photos of you two are adorable! Congratulations on your major milestone Kali ❤

  5. Linda

    Ohhhh! Congratulations beautiful Kali! What a stunning couple you two make. Happy Anniversary to you both! Here’s to many more milestones to come! ❤️

  6. lifeofangela

    Happy anniversary to you both!! This was such a cute post, I wish you guys all the best!
    I’m with you on what you say about long term relationships, I’m definitely not the same person I was when I first met Rory 6 years ago, and he’s not the same either. We’ve both changed for the better, I like to think 😀

  7. goodhonesttruth

    This was lovely to read. Congratulations on eight years and your commitment to growing together. I think way too many couples are scared to adjust to each others growth as people. You know you’ve found a good match when you are willing to accept each others’ changes. Congrats once again!!

  8. Danielle

    So cute! I loved the bit where you mentioned how he said he was allergic to lettuce because he didn’t like it. My boyfriend said exactly the same thing about tomatoes! (4 years on and that’s all changed haha).

  9. Erica

    Absolutely love this post. My husband and I dated since we were 18 and just got married last summer (we dated a whole decade before marrying) and it is so special to grow old and grow up with your best friend. Not everyone is as lucky to be able to do that. Happy anniversary to you both!

  10. Lee

    That’s beautiful! 8 years is a really long time, my longest relationship was almost 5 and it started when I was 15 so I know that it can be difficult at times but if the love is there you can make it through every storm. It’s rare to find love like that at such a young age.
    And this part was so funny lol
    “Lettuce doesn’t scare him, and he’s officially read one and a half books.”

      1. Mrs.S LDN

        Would love that! We have a Debs at home, from debutant…. God my photos used to be kinda cringe, now i’m like awwww look how sweet we where 😂 xx

  11. cakecraftstudio

    Hi Kali!

    First of all, what a post! Each word resonates truth of a long term companionship! Congratulations to you and Chad!
    Also, thanks for stopping by my blog, else I would have missed out on this wonderful blog of yours! What a find! Good luck for everything! Stay happy and blessed!

    Love,
    Pooja

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